09 May 2009

Being Like Ma

My mom and I have a pretty good relationship, I would say. I could talk to her about pretty much everything. Growing up, I knew that my friends wished that they could talk to their moms the way that I could talk to mine.

What characterized our relationship is a level of trust. She operated on the principle of trusting me not to break her trust in me. A very brave (and wise) thing to do, I realize now --especially now that I am a mother myself. I never really had to beg for permission to go out with friends, have sleepovers, etc. Implicit in our relationship was the agreement that I would let her know of my plans, with whom, when, where, etc. She never had to grill me about details --whether before or after the event. She trusted me enough to use good judgment regarding what was or wasn't kosher. I don't recall having to sit through sermons either. She's not the type.

I remember the one and only time I got stinking drunk and went home reeking of alcohol and had dried-up vomit on my shirt, fully expecting to be told off and lectured on how irresponsible that was, etc. All I got was, "Now that wasn't fun, was it?" No, it certainly wasn't. And I never misjudged my tolerance for alcohol since then.

I grew up wanting to be like my mom --not just be the kind of mother that she has been to me, but also be like her in the person that she is. If I could share with our tikesters the joy of learning; if I could instill in them an adequate sense of self-reliance; if I could help them gain a healthy sense of who they are and what they stand for; if I could model courage, strength of spirit and character; if I could laugh and cry and keep moving along; if I could be genuinely pleasant to others no matter how shitty I might feel, then perhaps I just might be able to come close to being a little bit like my mother.

Happy Mother's Day, Ma!


LPC said...

This post is as good as a parade to a mom:).

tracy said...

Wow, that was really nice to read :) what a great mom you had!


Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I'm here from Veronica Lee's blog. What a special tribute for your mom!

Hope you have a great Mother's day. I enjoyed your blog.

Veronica Lee said...

Happy Mother's Day to a very great mom and blogger buddy!

LPC said...

BTW, I've just given you an award on my blog. Queen of ALLLL Things. I really like reading your stuff and following along. Happy Mother's Day!

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Jennifer said...

That was very sweet. :-) Hope you and your mom are enjoying your Mother's Day!

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