18 November 2009

Simple Joy



We put up our Christmas tree today. I’d promised Josh and Zoë and they both were so excited. As soon as lunch was finished, we put up the ornaments. Zoë was so bubbly… singing and squealing with excitement. When everything was up, Josh decided that he would draw some Christmas ornaments (see here) to cut out and hang on the tree. So he busied himself drawing.


Zoë, by that time, I could tell, was tired and ready for her nap. She came to me, looking all sad.
Zoë: Mommy, I need something. 
Me: What do you need, Zoë? 
Zoë: Something to make me happy. (Said with this really forlorn look that makes you just want to pick her up and cuddle her.) 
Me: What would make you happy? 
Zoe: Something pretty.
She wanted some sweet loving attention. She’d get all cuddly (or cranky) whenever she’s tired, but she’s never tried this approach before where she “needs something to make [her] happy.”
Me: Is a flower pretty?
Zoë: Yes.
Me: Would you want a flower? 
Zoë: Yes. 
Me: What color would you want your flower to be? 
Zoë: A purple one. (Surprise, surprise.) 
Me: Why don’t you go nap and when you wake up, you might just get a purple flower. Okay?
 Zoë: Okay.
While she was napping, I made a little happy flower fan for Zoë .
Flower-purple
This is the back –pink.
Flower-pink
Josh helped me pick a purple popsicle stick, because “Zoë loves purple.”

When she woke from her nap, we gave her the fan and she was so happy. Her big sweet smile as she held on to her flower fan was priceless. “I like it, Mommy. I like it really much.”

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Yet another reminder to myself that it takes very little to make my children happy. That I just need to spend time and play with them and listen to them. Sounds easy enough, yet I find myself “forgetting” with my self-absorption sometimes. Books/blogs to read, posts to write, games to play (guilty!), business to take care of, phone calls to make/return, errands to run. How important are the rewards or consequences of those actions compared to my children’s happiness and well-being? I have to remember that now, they still want me to play with them. There will come a time when they would rather play with their friends. I wouldn’t want Josh or Zoë to look back on this time and say, “Oh, Mommy was too busy…”

How can I NOT forget?

16 COMMENTS:

Menopausal New Mom said...

What a pretty flower you made for her! I loved your reminder to play and enjoy them now before they move on to their friends. Nothing at my house is more important than spending time with my little one. Thanks for sharing!

Kat @ measuring my life in l-o-v-e said...

Yay for having the tree up! Your daughter sounds too cute and definitely it's the little things that we do for them that make them the most happy!

ModernMom said...

How lovely!

Oh and your Christmas tree is up! Whoo hoo. I am so not even close to that:)

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

Loved how Zoe just needed something pretty to make her happy. You seriously delivered, Girl! Pretty fan for a beautiful little girl.

Now, pictures of the Christmas tree and Josh made ornaments.

blueviolet said...

How absolutely wonderful! That's the cutest, simplest bit of happiness.

We put our tree up too! I still have to put the ornaments on but it's lit and everything.

Jacquie @ Joy Made Full said...

I love it!!! Spending time with the kiddos is the best!

Following you from MBC!

4 Lettre Words said...

We love the simple things in this house, too!

Lindy said...

Fan was a great idea and I'm even more impressed you had a purple popsicle stick just laying around the house. You all must get your craft on a lot over there! :)

Nezzy said...

I get the feelin' that Miss Zoe's favorite color is PURPLE. She is soooo sweet!!!

Have a terrific day enjoying the simple blessings!!!

golonghorns said...

Your thoughts reflect mine today. I've already been cleaning in my kitchen and feeling stretched to find a balance between the need to dos and the want to dos. But the chores can wait the kids are more important. I want to invest in my children and let them know they are my first priority! Hooray for purple flowers, we might have to make some today. :)

The Crazy Suburban Mom said...

Oh that is the sweetest thing ever and thanks for posting that :) Its a great reminder even for us with big kids :) But omg, you have a tree up already????? uh oh.... Im not even thinking tree yet!

smiles4u said...

How sweet! Isn't it wonderful that our children love the simple things in life?

Genny said...

Such a great post!

Ang said...

The flower is beautiful, I can see now why she liked it so much. I can not wait to put up the Christmas decorations. This weekend we have to go and get a new tree. 9 years and 6 moves was too much for our last one. lol

Tamara said...

What a wonderful idea and sweet thing to do for your daughter....awwwwww
I'm glad I stumbled upon your blog!!
http://www.homespunheartscandles.blogspot.com

Dandy said...

I like it really much.... can she be any sweeter?

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