26 November 2009

The Whine Test



Some days I get glimpses of what life might be like when Josh is a teenager.

The other night he wanted to have some ice cream after dinner. I said no. I told him that he could have some the following day if he’d finish his meals promptly. (This was after he took four hours –yes, four hours!! –to just finish his lunch that day. Ah, the drama.)

Josh whined and nagged. I told him to save his breath because it wouldn’t make me change my mind. He whined and nagged some more. I repeated that he could have some the following day, but that he wasn’t going to get any that night. To which, I got --

What? Do you want me to whine all night?

It was all I could do to not to react to that. I was so struck by his sass, yet totally amused that he’d thought that his non-stop whining would eventually wear me down. Yeah, Josh. I’d thought that, too, but I’d underestimated your PoPo. And you, my dear child, are underestimating me.

What do you do to stop the whining and the nagging? For how long do you let it go on before it gets to you?

(Happy Thanksgiving to all of you who celebrate it!)

14 COMMENTS:

Nezzy said...

It always gets to you, that's what the little master schemers count on. Just stick to your guns and they will learn that whining gets them nowhere. That is how they learn no really does mean no.

Josh is just too cute for words. Have a great one!!!

Veronica Lee said...

Most of the time, I cave in when the whines become intolerable!! That's something I really have to work on.

Wanda said...

Ah...me thinks Josh is no match for you!

I'm with you mama. State it and then turn it off. I do have a limit though. If the whining continues too long then there are consequenses.....like no ice-cream even tomorrow if this noise doesn't stop now.

Count it all joy! (Well....it's what I keep repeating to myself at times like these.)

:)

smiles4u said...

Oh yes, whining and begging...this mother knows this all too well. Every single child has to at least try this tactic every now and then. I find that the more I give in and let the limits or boundaries get stretched, the more the whining comes out. Usually, this is a sign to me that I have not been doing my job.

No means no at our house and whining and begging are usually not tolerated as means to get one's way. So, when I am lax or distracted or not paying attention, these kinds of things seem to sneak in to our home and I have a couple of whiney kids...ugh! And it gets even worse if I am so distracted that I start tuning it out. It then takes me sitting down with them, going over the rules and then sticking with the rule and with the consequences and then were back to normal....at least until the next time :)

Good luck with this. Just remember, even good kids can whine or beg because they are human and it just seems to be in our nature. XX Lori

MamaBear said...

Teaching kindergarten has taught me the fine art of modeling. It's not always 100% effective, but it helps: "Sweetie, big girls don't whine and cry when they can't have what they want. You need to act nicely so that maybe you can have it next time. Just say, 'Oh, well! Maybe next time!' and find something else to do/eat." After about the 1 billionth time of hearing that speech, sometimes you'll actually see them do just that!

golonghorns said...

Would you like some cheese and crackers with the wine, er whine??? Yes my oldest knows that whining produces results as well. Often I will mirror his voice and be silly back to show him how he sounds. It's hard but being consistent is key. With my younger one if she asks for her sippy in a demanding way I work with her to ask with polite manners. I just can't believe Josh said What? Do you want me to whine all night? Smart little man, and Lord help us when they are teeenagers!

Secret Mom Thoughts said...

Scary glimpse into the future ;)

Menopausal New Mom said...

To stop my 3 1/2 year old whining, I put her in a time out. It may take twice but it works like a charm! Good luck to you, you might consider plugging in your ipod so you don't have to listen to him Lol!

Susie said...

I have a pretty short fuse. I am a big believer in 1-2-3 Magic. It is the only thing that has worked with our youngest.

Vic said...

Strike One is all my little girl gets and she knows better. Simply saying one, two, three doesn't cut it. Try saying "Strike" and they might get scurred!:) hehe...happy thanksgiving my friend:)

The girl with the flour in her hair said...

I think they're born with that innate sense of sarcasm. It's scary! :)

My daughter is a terrible whiner. I usually just leave the room. When my son whines, I tell him I can't understand him when he talks like that and he usually knocks it off. My daughter isn't so easy. Let me know if you learn any magic tricks to make the whining cease...

Aunt LoLo said...

Eventually the whining results in one of three things: a smack on the rear, a time out in her room, or the confiscation of something she wants. (My favorite was when she followed me around whining and didn't WANT TO PLAY WITH ANY OF HER TOYS. SHE DIDN'T LIKE HER TOYS. WAAAAAH. So I put packed up all the toys I could fit into a garbage sack and hid them in the garage. Heh.

Come to think of it, whining usually results in ALL of the three things up there. The smack is on the way to the room, and the confiscation is on my way out as I lock her in there. Hrm.

Herb of Grace said...

Hah. Good thing he's not my son :) Whining gets to me SO fast! Sometimes I unthinkingly give in before I realize I'm doing it! Good for you for sticking to your guns :)

Kat @ measuring my life in l-o-v-e said...

Oh the things that come out of their mouths! Lols. I let her cry it out and then we move on. If she wants to continue whining, I re-say whatever it is that she's not happy about. But really - I'm really really good at tuning her out. It drives the Hubs crazy - b/c I'll do it to him also.

Good luck!

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