07 April 2011

Are RSVP’s Passé?




I hope you are not too tired of all these flowers shots that I’ve been posting.  I have lots more… lots more.  But because I’m running around like a headless chicken these days, planning for Zoë’s birthday party next week, I have only one for today.

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Just wondering… When you receive an invitation, do you reply promptly?  When you send out invitations, what percentage of those invited actually RSVP?  If people do not reply, do you assume that they are attending or that they are not attending?  How far in advance do you send out invitations and how long a period do you allow for people to RSVP?  Is it in poor taste to follow up when you don’t hear back by the time listed on your invitation?

I love to personalize party bags, especially if there are different ages of boys and girls attending.  I can’t do that if I do not know who is or isn’t attending.  I am tempted to just personalize party bags and gifts for those who have confirmed and just have generic ones just in case for those who “drop in.”  

What do you think?

28 COMMENTS:

Nezzy said...

I always follow up if I don't hear and if I don't get an answer then....I let the chips fall where they may!!!

When I receive an invitation I answer ASAP...but I bet ya could'a guessed that!

I bet you throw a fantastic party!

God bless and have a terrific day sweetie!!!

*Jess* said...

I think RSVP is sadly a lost art. The new trend is "Regrets Only" which personally drives me crazy. I don't want to know who not coming, I want to know who IS coming!

Just Bits and Pieces said...

I always RSVP....even if it's to one of my best friends!!! It's so difficult to plan a party when you don't actually know how many people (kids) to expect!!!! Good luck with the party planning!!!

Nicolasa said...

RSVPing does seem to be a lost art. I don't know why people can't pick up the phone or send a quick email to say whether or not they can attend the event. It really isn't that hard. It annoys the crap outta me!

I like your idea of personalizing the ones that you can! Gorgeous picture!

Ashley Sisk said...

If an invitation calls for an RSVP, I most certainly do RSVP. I think it helps if you offer an email and phone to RSVP as well as a date! Some of the invites I've gotten have left off a date so people could RSVP whenever which is annoying. I remember having to follow up with people for my wedding and I think people assume that if they don't RSVP that they aren't coming. Good luck with the party!

jen@odbt said...

I always respond with invitations (yes or no) b/c I am like you...I would like the courtesy to know how many to expect etc. I think it's rude when people don't respond and think most assume by not responding that means they're not coming but as the host, I don't see it that way.

DawnS said...

I always call if we are coming and try to remember to call if we are not. I bet your party is going to be fabulous!! Can't wait to see the pictures!

Nicole said...

I don't think everyone RSVP's. I'm not sure if it is lack of organization, but I definitely RSVP if asked. Plus I don't feel comfortable going after not RSVPing. I hear that there is a certain percent of people who do RSVP where something may come up and that a percentage of people who don't RSVP who do come. It's tricky, but I like the idea of personalizing what you can and having extras.

Also, thank you so much for linking up with us for Theme Thursday! Your photography is always amazing! I love your flower.

Oh, I can't forget an early Happy Birthday to your little one!

Dominique said...

I feel that most people nowadays can't be bothered to RSVP. for me I would as I know the hassle with planning a party. I would send the invites at least 2 to 3 weeks before and finalise with a follow up SMS/E-mail within a week to confirm numbers. I will assume that the person is not turning up if he doesn't reply.. it's always better to underestimate then overestimate and be left with leftovers.
Happy Birthday to Zoe in advance.

i.ikeda said...

I always try to rsvp, especially if the party thrower has asked for one. I think you've gotten some nice advice so far, and I would def. follow up with an email or such. And happy birthday Zoe! I hope you share some of the festivities pictures.

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I would definitely personalize the ones that you know for sure are going to be there and then leave a few generic. That's so not fair to leave it up to you to guess or to call each person individually. I RSVP.

tinajo said...

I always reply and say if my kids will attend or not. I like to personalize things when my kids have parties and then I figure I can give others the same chance. Personally, I HATE not knowing exactly how many will come - I want to be prepared! :-)

LindyLouMac in Italy said...

So rude not to reply, I would do exactly as you have said here.

Jennifer said...

Beautiful Shot, love the flower! Thanks for linking up to Theme Thursday!

Also, Happy Birthday to your little one! I have to say i always RSVP as soon as i get an invite, i don't want to forget! And i am with Nicole i don't feel comfortable going unless i have... I am in the same boat sending out invited for my son's birthday party this week and i think i might just add a note at the bottom saying that i plan to personalize party hats and gift bags so please RSVP, too much?

Sharon said...

To be honest, I find myself RSVP'ing in a much more timely fashion to those who leave an email address on the invitation or even a number to text. Sad, I know, but that's the way the world is working these days. When I had family over for Gene's 13th Birthday they all emailed and text me to say they were coming. It's easier.

sarah - dodeline design said...

As an invitation designer, it's a great question to ask! For wedding invites, most people still do the reply card. I think it's the best if you have it already addressed and stamped - people are much more likely to actually do it. And the email address is great too but old people won't do it lol :-)

Maddy said...

I admit, I'm terrible at RSVP's! But I don't see the harm in dropping the people who haven't responsded a quick phone call to make sure. It's possible they never received it or completely forgot.

sherri lynn said...

I feel your pain with the RSVP issue. I definitely RSVP whenever an invitation I receive calls for it. I try to do so within a day or two, if I am positive I can attend. I think giving at least a week to ten days to RSVP for a party is acceptable. If it's a day or two after the deadline and you haven't heard from someone, I think it's fine to follow up with a phone call. Maybe say, "just wanted to make sure you would be able to attend!" or "was wrapping up some last minute details and wanted to make sure I had enough of everything". That way they won't feel embarrassed or offended. can't wait to see pictures of the party!

Kayce said...

It seems the RSVP is no longer "taught" in homes. I RSVP as soon as I get an invitation to something but when I'm the party thrower...the RSVP's are far and few between. I'm sure the party will be wonderful either way for Zoe! Can't wait to see your images from the day!

Tezzie said...

I try to answer party invitations as soon as possible...and I totally expect people to answer mine, too! If they don't, I definitely follow up so that I know how many people to plan for. I don't feel bad about that, in any way...I think THEY'RE the ones who should be feeling bad for not responding to someone trying to do something nice for them!

Hope Zoë has a fabulous birthday! Tomorrow is Boy's birthday, but we won't be having a kid's party for at least a week because of the Chicken Pox (maybe more if Munchkin developes spots within the next few days. Poor Boy :-( ...)

Shannan said...

Beautiful Photo :)

thesisterhoodofspiritualsinglemoms said...

I always try to RSVP, but with kids it is so hard. I do call and let them know if they have gotten sick at the last minute and won't be there. I think that is just as important. I don't think many people RSVP to kids parties, but do to more elegant and adult events. I think it is more important to respond to kids invites because if there is a limit to how many your child can ask and it is a weekend that a few can't be there, then the birthday boy/girl can ask more. (I know nobody wants to be the second thought invitation, but kids don't think about why somebody can't be there they just see that they don't have many guests and they get their feelings hurt.)

Krystal said...

So, I have no idea about RSVP's. If it's getting close I just send out a friendly reminder email or call and harass them :) Good luck!!! Thanks for your note last friday while I was away!

angie said...

The flowers are AMAZING. Keep them coming!

Sarah said...

Gorgeous photo.

About RSVP's I usually follow up with the ones that have not RSVP'd. I always try to RSVP. I can't wait to see the photos of the party. I bet it is going to be amazing.

Bossy Betty said...

Coming by via Nicolasa's blog! I always RSVP and I think your idea on the gift bags is great!

Nicole said...

If you'd like to stop over to anotherdayanotherdiaper-mom.blogspot.com. There is something waiting for you!

Anonymous said...

I've planned probably about 50 parties over the years. Usually about 75% of the invited guests RSVP (not all yes). The other 25% you don't hear a word from. Then of those who said they would come, on the day of about 85% of those actually show up. Many RSVP's come in too late too be useful (i.e. a day or two before the event). I have a better method of party planning. I take the invited guest list and cut it in half. That's how many favor bags and food I buy for. It's foolproof and always enough, with leftovers. As for the RSVP's, I write them all done on my phone's electronic notepad, but I don't contact the people I don't hear from. I just put them on the "not attending" list. I have personally never had anyone just "show up". As for me--I respond yes or no w/in 24 hrs of receiving the invite and I show up to the party on time. I'm also noticing very few guests show up on time to parties these days.

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